Signs Your Child Might be a Bully
- Quick to lose their temper, is easily frustrated, impulsive.
- Known to test limitations & disobey rules set by adults.
- Shows very little or any concern about bullying victims.
- Seems to view and accept violence in a positive manner.
- Is often aggressive when dealing with adults and authority.
- Likes to be in control and dominate those around him.
- Good at talking their way out of trouble when caught.
- Enjoys teasing, ridiculing or humiliating other children.
- They tend to have a self-assured attitude of themselves.
- A bully can be a boy or girl, weak or strong, big or small.
Here are 9 steps to take if you child is a bully:
1. You want to take advantage of all the resources available to you to get to the root of the problem. Talk to the school to try and get
as much information about what is going on as possible.
2. Sit down and talk to your child. Try and find out why he or she is bullying the other child. Is it peer pressure? Is it jealousy? Is it
due to insecurity? Is it a form of retaliation? It is important and critical to find out what is is that is causing your child to harass other
3. You need to explain to your child the seriousness of their behaviour. They need to fully understand what their behaviour is doing to
the victim and what the victim is experiencing as a result of the bullying taking place.
4. You may want to role play with your child to try and demonstrate the proper way of handling certain situations that may have occurred
that caused them to behave in this manner.
5. Try to identify an area of strenth your child possesses. It has been found that if you can encourage your child to achieve in an area
he/she is skilled (music, art, sports, etc.) that it can help greatly with their self esteem and eliminate the desire to bully.
6. Try to keep communication between your child and yourself as open as possible.
7. Set a good example for your child. Make sure that when you are confronted with a problem that you solve it in a calm manner without
over-reacting, shouting, or becoming violent in your actions.
8. Be sure to praise your child for positive behaviour he/she exhibits and whenever possible. It is very important to praise good
behaviour in public and if necessary, make any corrections to bad behaviour in private.
9. If for any reason you still have concerns that your child still needs further help to eliminate bullying behaviour or to deal with whatever
the reasons existed that causedthe behaviour - contact a child mental health professional immediately. You cannot under estimate the
seriousness of the situation.